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What is an enabler?

What is an Enabler?

Good Day Everyone!  My name is Anthony Hopkins and I am responsible for enabling other people for more than a half of a century.  I remember when I was a child, I used to help others with their homework for school. 

I am getting very honest with myself and others about enabling behavior.  I have been clean and sober for 35 years now.  I rarely ask anyone else for help.

Next, I am letting all of you know that I am guilty of enabling other people.  What is the definition of enabling? Enabling is when someone is doing something that other people can do for themselves. 

 At one point in my life, I was coerced by other people to do something for someone else.  The fair-weather friends that I had were using me.  My family members told me to my face that people were taking advantage of me.  At that time, I had concealed the person and the whole problem. 

 I have a fair-weather friend that still ask me to do things for him.  I didn’t know that this behavior was getting worse because I was always broken financially.

Further, I am sharing this information because I know that there are other people who are going through the same thing.  I know that certain people do not love me personally. 

 I have got my friend released from prison back in 2016.  He did not appreciate it.  I have done so much for other people that I am in need, and the same people who I have helped cannot help me in return. 

 I know that I am sharing all of this information to help others wake up and smell reality.  I am very sorry for allowing other people to take advantage of me.  It hurts me because I owe $ 32,000 dollars in student loan debt right now.  My mother told me to my face that I will see the error of all of my ways. 

 There are members in my family, who have not given me a dime to help me, but my nieces and nephews helped me and I am very grateful.

Moreover, I want to inform all of you that my neighbors at The Arrow rock Avenue Apartments have not helped me when I couldn’t call my siblings.  My nieces and nephews assisted me when my siblings did not.  My siblings helped me in the past.  My brother paid my rent for me. 

 My siblings want me to live with them, but I don’t want to caste all of my burdens on them.  I really need a job working somewhere just to pay my student loans and other bills.  I am sharing all of this just to let everyone know that my church members helped me out a lot.

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  I am saying all of this information to learn how to help others who are in need.  My Pastor told me that I am an analytical thinker and I am an excellent Writer.

In Addition to the library and Church that I attend on a regular basis.  It’s that I am very sick physically mentally psychologically and spiritually drained. I am asking God to help me out with this drained problem. 

Emotionally, I am losing my memory right now.  I have lapses in my memory right now. I am very happy to have a place to live for the past 9 months now.  I only wish that I can stop the marijuana smoking inside of my brother’s apartment.  My back is still hurting me.

Finally, I am telling all of you that enabling is a very serious problem.  I tell other people who enable others to please keep away from me.  I realize that I have Jesus Christ and God as my real friends.  I am very happy to help others but I will not allow other people to take advantage of me and my kindness.  I suffer from Diabetes Full Blown Type 2 and Schizoid Affective Disorder right now.

 My family members rarely visit me. I can understand everyone is skeptical about me and my building where I choose to live.  I write because it helps me to cope with a mental illness.  Enabling affects me and everyone else because many people are not learning how to do things for themselves.

 They prefer that; I complete their tasks for them; when they are capable of doing it themselves.

I cannot keep on doing things for people when they can do it for themselves.  I have some bad news to share with you.  The Social Security Administration is getting ready to terminate my benefits. 

 People who are under the age of 65 have to go back to work and make a decent living for themselves.  Social Security Administration specifically stated that I have written three books in 23 years.  They are saying that I have to report my income. 

 The US Government has given me a stimulus check in the past, and I used the money to publish three books within a 23-year period.

 I love all of you, but this enabling problem is affecting me personally.  If someone knows how to use a computer, I will let you do your own work.  I am an Author of three books.  I have to copyright all of my most recent writing.  I love you all.  Please start using your phone for everything. 

 If I can apply for a job using my phone, then anyone else can do the same exact thing.  Enabling has caused a lot of people to become deprived of learning a brand-new skill.  Enabling does not give me power, it is transferring power to the other person.  Enabling leaves, you powerless, and you do not have to be in active addiction.  My fair-weather friend has used me so much that I am getting tired of being around him.

In Conclusion, I have learned a valuable lesson for doing things for other people, and you are not getting paid.  It also deprives you of money and learning new skills myself.

 Enabling is an addiction and it needs to stop.  Enabling causes other people to consume you with their stuff.  Anger resides inside of the heart of fools.  It defines our culture.  Enabling for me has made me out of a fool.

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My AA Sponsor & I; Already Had Resolved This Discrepancy!!

Good Morning and God Bless You?  How come I am going through some much adversity?  Ladies and Gentlemen, I want to inform everyone that for the past 28 years, I have went through so much stress physically, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically 

An example of the stress that I am going through right now is the way that my own family members don’t listen to my advice.  I have been telling my family members that we are being computer hacked right now.   My own family members actually think that I am going to make a transition in my personal life.  My own family members think that I am losing my mind.  My own family members do not have any faith in my own ability to survive as a human being in society.

Next, I will admit that I have been feeling lethargic and suffering from Brain Fog.  This means that my way of thinking is not as sharp as it was; when I was much younger.   I will admit that I have been prescribed too much medication.   My psychiatrist stated to me that I really need to stay on my psychotropic medications for the long haul.

Moreover, I want to inform everyone that I am not as active as I was at the age of 30.  When I was 30 years old, I had graduated from the University of Toledo.  I will admit that my mind and thinking have sharply declined since 1995.  I will also admit that I have been taking my current medications for a total of 28 years now. 

In Addition to the way I have worked for half of my life.   I will admit that I have been working excessive jobs in order to survive on Planet Earth.   I know that my life has been stressful because I had been misunderstood by everyone in my entire family members and friends.   I know that I have been clean and sober for 35 years now.   I know that I am suffering from Diabetes Type #2 and Schizoid Affective Disorder as a  mental illness. 

Also, I am living in a neighborhood that doesn’t embrace full diversity.   I noticed that my own neighbors had been stealing from me and my own family members.   I have been stressing out about the way I am being treated by people who are not my family members.  What I am saying is that I have been hearing racial slurs while I am walking in my current neighborhood.  Frankly, I  want to inform everyone that my own family members use racial slurs as well.  For instance; my own family members have been calling me retarded and a homosexual. 

Further, I want to inform everyone that my niece and nephews do not respect me as a person.  My family members have been using vulgarity as young children.  I will also admit that I had been using vulgarity because my caretaker were using vulgarity in front of me as a child.  My half siblings and I do not relate well with each other.  I want to inform everyone that I used to have a very low self esteem.  This is simply because I was around people who didn’t know how to use constructive criticism .  I have friends who know how to use constructive criticism as Children rather than belittling me.

The adversity that I am going through is caused by other people and myself.   I have had water sprayed on me by my neighbors who live near me.  There are people who are homeless and living inside of vacant apartments. I will admit that my health problems has declined tremendously since 1995.  I am taking so much medication that I tend to become more active in the early afternoon because my medications caused me to sleep excessively. 

Finally, I will admit that I have neglected myself by not taking a bath on a daily basis.   Please continue to pray for me because I have been more sluggish and tired from taking too much medication each day.  My own family members say that my room doesn’t smell good.  I have to tell everyone the truth that I am suffering from athletes foot fungus and my mental illness has caused me to become very slothful and lazy for the past 28 years now.   I will admit that I hear voices that are not the Holy Spirit.   My conduct has improved because I am getting up and taking walks during the day.  I want everyone to please keep me in your prayers and thoughts because I am losing my memory and vision simultaneously. 

In Summary, I can read and write extremely well for a person in my age bracket. Most of the adversity that I am going through is simply because I am misunderstood by my own family members and people.  I can under why my neighbors are doing the things that; they are doing simply because I am taking a bath on a weekly basis.  I will admit that I have not cut my hair and shave my face in over a month.  I am very sorry for neglecting myself.  Right Now, I am very

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 physically and mentally as well as emotionally and psychologically drained from taking 35 pills per day.  Please pray for me and my family members and friends worldwide 

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  I  am being very transparent and truthful with God and each person on Planet Earth 

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.  Thank you for understanding me as a person.  Thank you for reading my essay today 

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.  Although I am a very educated person who has graduated from college twice.   Right Now, I am like a snail crawling on the ground.  God Bless All of You!

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My Personal Salutation, and Statements to The City of Dayton, Ohio & Community At Large

My Personal Salutation & Letter to the City of Dayton, Ohio & Community At Large!

Good Afternoon Everyone,

How are you doing today?   Fine, I hope.  I want to inform everyone that we are all in need of God’s Grace and Mercy right now.  I am saying this because I need it myself.  I am only making an honest observation regarding the state of affairs in today’s society.  I am not perfect.  I am trying to win other people to repentance.  Frankly, it was very hard for me to repent of all of my personal sins.  It has taken me 12 years to forgive a woman, who had taken advantaged of me.

Next, I want to inform everyone that I have sinned a whole lot in my personal life.  I had to fully understand that I had sustained a great deal of physical, mental, and emotional abuse growing up in the Dayton, Ohio urban city.

 I grew up during the 1970s.  I remember staying with my grandparents. 

The house where I grew up has either been demolished, or sold to someone who is not a member of our family.  I am still hurt about my grandparent’s house.  I am still crying inwardly because the house had been in my family for 85 years.  My Aunt had decided to either demolish the property or sell it to the highest bidder.  I really had a lot of fun inside of as well diverse neighborhood along the Lower West Side of Dayton, Ohio. 

However, I had grew up with a lot of people, who are very famous in the Dayton, Ohio Area.  I want to inform all of you that I used to play basketball for several years at Edison Elementary School and Franklin School in the Dayton, Ohio Area.  I also used to go to the park by myself at night.  I used to be a school safety patrolman for 3 years.  I know that I had to fist fight a whole lot growing up.  This is simply because my mother told me to start fighting back because it was the only way I am able to survive.

In Addition, I had won and lost fist fights while living in the Dayton, Ohio Area.  I really love going to the river each day of the week.  This is where I started swimming.  I will admit that I had to swim inside of a river; just to learn how to swim.  There were times when I went to Riverview Park in Dayton, Ohio just to swim inside of the swimming pool, and eat lunch.  My mother worked inside of restaurants right down the street from our family’s apartment.

Also, I used to possess a very low self esteem as a child.  I guess attending school during the 1970s was very harsh.  At least, we used our hands to settle disputes.  Currently, a lot of children had perished while they were inside of school grounds or; along the way home from school.  I know that I really want to inform all of you that my whole life consisted of ups and downs.  Behaviorally, I used to be scared of other children because I used to get beaten up all of the time.  My mother ordered me to fight these other school bullies back.

Finally, I want to inform all of you that I have an excellent sense of direction.  I had to learn how to get around real early in life.  I remember when my friends used to laugh at me because I was buying female products for my mother and grandmother.  My friends were some incorrigible kids during that time.  I have had my moments when I used to commit crimes just to survive.  I realized that life is really; what you make of it.  Sometimes, life will throw you a curve ball for you to catch.  You will either catch the ball, or the ball will hit you; while trying to catch it.

In Summary, my overall behavior had to change because I got tired of spending time inside of jails and other institutions during the past 28 years.  One Bright Spot in my Life came when I was able to graduate from college on 2 different occasions.  I received my Associates and Bachelor’s Degrees from the University of Toledo in Toledo, Ohio in 1993 & 1995 respectively.

 My overall attitude about life had changed during the past 8 years now.  My mother is deceased.  My own biological father died less than 6 months after my mother’s funeral.  My half sister died a month and a half earlier.  I know that I am very disappointed because I have been taking Invega and Prozac for 28 years now.  I also started having seizures as well.  My own family had to adjust to life without our mother.  My grandmothers died along the way.  My grandfathers as well.  I did not know that I have two additional aunts from my grandfather living out of state in Las Vegas, Nevada. 

Postscript:  Love is the key to peace!!  I had to learn how to walk away from fist fights from both men and women.  I do suffer from Schizoid Affective Disorder as a Mental Health Diagnosis.  I want to say that I really need a lot of prayer because I have been having night sweats and crying while I am sleeping.  My nieces and nephews are very intelligent people.  My nephew has a Corporate Position in his own business.  My nieces are very successful inside of the Dayton, Ohio Community.  My siblings are doing very well for themselves.  Although my brothers and sisters and I do not speak very much, but I love them anyway.

My other family members are successful in their respected communities.  One of my cousins completed her entire career in the Armed Forces.  I really love my cousins because they have a lot of common sense.  I had inherited my mother’s intellect and wisdom.  There are times when I might become complaisant at times.

 I will admit that I tend to become a professional procrastinator.  There are times when I tend to neglect my duties at the apartment, and in my personal life.  This is the reason why I need a lot of prayer because I tend to become a very lazy person.  I will also admit that I have been jumping to conclusions from time to time.  I really appreciate myself as a person; simply because I had to learn how to persevere throughout my life.  I am still a Work in Progress!!  Thank you for reading my essay.  May the Lord God Continue to Bless All of You!!

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How To Talk, Listen, and Understand Women?

 How to Talk, Listen, and to Understand Women!!!!!!!!!!!!I AM STILL LEARNING HOW TO LISTEN, TALK, AND UNDERSTAND WOMEN AND I AM 60 YEARS OLD.  I ALSO KNOW THAT I AM STILL A WORK IN PROGRESS MYSELF. THIS IS AN OLD BLOG, HOWEVER IT APPLIES IN THE 21ST CENTURY.  REMEMBER ONE THING, IS THAT THERE ARE MORE WOMEN, WHO ARE LIVING IN THE UNITED STATES & WORLDWIDE THAN MEN.  THERE IS A 52% WOMEN AND 48% MEN INSIDE OF THE UNITED STATES & WORLDWIDE.  THESE STATISTICS ARE DERIVED FROM THE UNITED STATES CENSUS BUREAU AND THE WORLD HEALTH ORGANIZATION 2025.
This is a very special blog on the importance of learning how to listen, talk, and to understand women. First, it is very important to understand that women are a creation of God Himself. Her creation is derived from the womb of man; who is named Adam. A rib of man was removed while he slept and afterwards his female counterpart was right directly in front of his face. Her name was Eve because she is an auxiliary for man. This meaning his counterpart or companion while joining him on earth. A woman is unique as a species because she is the bearer of children and she is very intelligent.

Second, in an institution of marriage, a man is supposed to leave his own parents home and join his wife and live with her inside of a house of their own. This is the institution of marriage. However, in contemporary times, women do not bear the last name of their own husbands. This is done for personal reasons. In some cases, this has a lot to do with pre-nuptial agreements that has been made prior to marriage. Also, in some cases, this has a lot to do with assets and information that couples cannot gain access to throughout the marriage.

Third, let’s get to the lesson of learning how to communicate with women. As children, a little boy is supposed to learn how to respect his own mother. This is first and foremost. This is by making sure that he is able to say yes madam and no madam to his own mother to begin with. In retrospect, he is also supposed to learn how to respect his elders. This means that he is supposed to respect those who are older than him. When it pertains to women, a boy or a man is supposed to stop whatever he is doing at the moment and go directly to women. This is a respect factor. By doing this a boy, girl, man, or another woman is supposed to pay attention to what she is saying to you.

Fourth, women deserve respect simply because they are emotional creatures just like men. It’s that men deny or in most cases refuse to acknowledge their personal feelings. Nor even recognize their sensitive side at times. There are times that disagreements might occur, but it is very important to learn to listen to both sides of any disagreement. The primary purpose of learning to talk, listen, and to understand women is to improve communication skills and to learn how to become active listeners in all situations.

Fifth, listening is very important because it is a key to communication. How come listening is a very important key to good communication skills? The answer is that when a message is relayed or an oral exchanged takes place, it’s very important to understand what is being said at all times. If someone is telling me something, I am supposed to listen with my ears the message and if necessary tell them what they have said; so that I can fully comprehend the message. I know in my case, I would write all of my notes on paper and clipboard so that I can fully understand what is being expressed to me personally.
Expression is the next because it takes a very good communicator to send a great message. When it comes to listening and communication skills, it is very important to eliminate all of the distractions that are in your way in order to understand what is being expressed. When it comes to women, men really need to turn the television off and look directly at women while they are speaking to them. Men and little boys are guilty at times of trying to tune women out. How come this happen on a daily basis, this is because men and boys tend to become obtuse and reluctant to listening at certain times at women. Men and boys usually think they are superior to their female counterparts.

Sixth, how do we really learn how to talk, listen, and understand women? The answer is by learning how to pay attention to what is right in front of you. At least mankind is supposed be allowed and be entitled to their freedom of speech. Listening is very easy for some and difficult for others. Why is this problem for others? This is because of the breakdown in communication that had taken place prior to full communication itself. This is caused by a lack of understanding of people as a member of the human race. Understanding others come from spending time with members of your own family.

This begins by understanding your own family dynamics as well as yourself as a person. Understanding of a woman is very easy. This starts off by acknowledging the person who had brought you into this world first. This is God and your own mother. When a man learns to respect his own mother, grandmother, aunt, or elders that are women, then he learns to respect women as a full member of the human race. When a man is around women, he is not supposed to use vulgarity and course language on a regular basis. When this happens, it breaks communications down and it makes things very difficult for men to relate well with women.