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Cohabitation vs. Traditional Marriage

This is an essay on the advantages and disadvantages between cohabitation and a traditional marriage. Let’s look at what are the two as a whole. The definition of cohabitation is when two people either male or a female live together inside of one house. On the other hand, both men and women can live together for one common purpose. It is based on necessity and its sole purpose is to survive by putting all of your resources together and maintain a specific place to live. If it applies to non-married couples, the only thing that is accomplished is the bills are getting paid. For example, the utilities, food, and rent are being paid by someone who has income coming from a specific source. On the other, anyone at any age usually cohabitate as a means of testing the waters. This is to determine whether the person that they are currently living with is suitable for marriage.

This is done on a trial and error basis. Anyone who agree with cohabitation as a means to figure out whether this person is a candidate for marriage, then good luck!!!! As far as a traditional marriage is concerned, it is when a man and woman who has done things the right way, and they are ready to settle down and join a life partnership. A certificate from the state of which the union has been official is required. It does require a great deal of planning and responsibility when it comes to both men and women. Some people pay for their own wedding all by themselves. There are others who would prefer to have others to assist in this process. A wedding planner or ministers of a church are examples of people who will assist in this process.

We are not saying that family members could not help. It varies according to how family members accept the bride or groom as a member of the family. Now each member of a cohabitated family household as well as a traditional marriage must have some financial stability. This means that each member of the household must carry their own weight on a financial basis. You cannot have one person carrying the full load all by themselves. If this is the case, then you will have conflict inside of the residence. This is not a laughing matter. This is because women are stronger than men when it comes to maintaining a specific household.

This is because they are organized and straight to the point when it comes to paying bills as well as buying food. Women are better planners when it comes to dealing with childcare, but they cannot do it all by themselves. This is the reason why men should be able to keep up when it comes to learning how to listen to women. If not, then a man who does not know how to manage the affairs of a household and children will always have trouble. This is because some men tend to allow women to pay for all of the bills and they also are controlling inside of a cohabitated or a traditional marriage environment.

For more information about this, try looking into your law enforcement statistics as well as issues pertaining to domestic violence. This is not to say that there is not any equilibrium or equality inside of the household. Therefore, good communication skills are necessary when it comes to maintaining a household of any kind. It is always very important to understand that there are more women and men who have decided to try the cohabitation method. Why is this, this is because it is much easier on them than getting married.

This is simply because an average person will have to find out how you are personally before they will decide to get married. This is the feeling out process. It is a feeling out process because it enables men and women to find out all about each other. Like they say, you have to find out what is sand from soil. If a person does not know the difference between sand and soil then this is a problem. Traditional marriages are not lasting very long for young people between the ages of 18 to 40. The reason why is because there is a breakdown in communication and there are times that both men and women hold on to emotional baggage from the past. If there is baggage from the past, then it is very difficult for couples to have a successful relationship.

Men and women are different when it comes to communication in the first place. If a man is afraid to share with his spouse or significant other about his personal feelings, then there is a problem. This means that his ego is inside of his body and he is hiding his true self. A man’s ego is like a cage that he tends to hide inside of whenever there is a conflict inside of the home. Men on the other hand are supposed to become leaders inside of an average cohabitation or traditional marriage household. If he is not a leader, then why is a woman so reluctant allowing him to spread his wings and fly? I guess women tend to fear that they cannot find another man to replace the one that was lost. This is an insecurity on their part because like they say, people can do things all by themselves.

People will have to become secure within yourself. By becoming secure, this means to gain confidence and become more responsible for your own actions as an adult. Cohabitation has its disadvantages, by saying this; it means that men and women might not get married in the first place. There is not a purpose. You are just living inside of a home and paying the bills. What do you have to share with each other? I guess nothing much!!! What are you intentions in your cohabitated home environment? Evaluate yourself as a person and ask your spouse or significant other to do the same.

Disadvantages in a traditional marriage are unemployment, a lack of childcare resources, extreme poverty, and breakdown in communication between husbands and wives, as well as active addiction issues. In a traditional marriage, men and women refuse to be honest with each other about their personal needs. This also applies to a cohabitation environment. There is so much dishonesty and a lack of harmony that it causes men and women to separate and go their own separate ways.
Departure is extremely difficult in cohabitation and a traditional home environment. If men and women are not honest and truthful from the very start, then problems will arise and there will never be a purpose or a set foundation for success in any of these relationships. Cohabitation and a traditional marriage is really what you make of it. If your life at the present is not up to your expectations, then try attending church and request for God’s help. It is God who provides us with the air that we breathe each day. It is God who gives us our life and bless us with the people who we choose to share our life with. God Bless You!!!

1^st Timothy 5:24 and what does it means to all people?

          This is an essay that has a whole lot to do with 1^st Timothy 5:24: and what does it means to all people? 1^st Timothy 5:24 says: Some men’s sins are open beforehand, going before to judgment; and some men they follow later.  This means that for some men, their sins are clearly apparent, and in another case, there are men who sins will be revealed to them later.  To be honest, God watches all things from heaven.  I will admit that I still have a very long way to go in my Christian walk. 

          Next, I will also admit that I have been clean and sober for a total of 29 years right now.  It is God that is doing for me more than I am doing for myself.  I have not been in trouble in a total of 7 years now.  I remember being probated for a crime that I did not commit.  I was remanded to the Dayton, Ohio Montgomery County Common Pleas Court for committing two counts of communications of threats.  I did not commit these crimes whatsoever.  I was requesting for prayer from Turner Road Baptist Church in my hometown of Dayton, Ohio.  I was subsequently placed on probation for three years.  The dates are as follows from February 28, 2012 to March 28, 2015.  I had to report to court every year for three years.

          Proverbs 17:9 says: He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separates very friends.  I am willing to renounce all of my transgressions to the Lord.  The Lord will always forgive me as long as I am faithful and just in all of my causes.  We all have personal sins in our lives that only God can only forgive us.  For instance, I have made a lot of mistakes in my personal life.  I have not used vulgarity in over a month right now.  I asked God to forgive me for using vulgarity; when I get angry.

          Further, Galatians 6:1 says: Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such a one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.  This means if a member of the church helps me resolve my transgressions in a peaceful manner; lest he himself be tempted.  My brother and I had to resolve our problem, particularly when he called me out of my name without cause.  I have forgiven my brother for calling me out of my name.  We apologized to each other because God intervened between the two of us.  A member of my church had to mediate between a friend of mine and me; whenever there was a disagreement about the Bible.

          Psalms 32:1 Says: Blessed is he whose transgressions is forgiven, who sin is covered.  Only God forgives transgressions and sins.  I am capable of forgiving others; whenever they have wronged me personally.  I have forgiven my brother recently for calling me out of my name.  I also forgiven my own cousin for beating me with a bicycle pole back on May 5, 1981. 

 I am the type of person who do not like to harbor resentments and aggression towards other people.  During the past five years, my life has changed for the better.

          For Example, I do not curse people out anymore.  I do not use social media as a means to severely criticize others, as I did in the past.  I have changed behaviorally as well.  I have given my life over to the care of God.  I feel a lot better because I have the Holy Spirit inside of me right now.

          Psalms 32:5 Says: I acknowledge my sin unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid.  I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the Lord; and thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin. Selah. As long as I acknowledge all of my sins to God and His son Jesus Christ, He will forgive me of all of my sins.  1^st Timothy 5:24 means to me that all of our sins are obvious to God.  Even though man’s sins are hidden from other men, but with God.  Everything is revealed to Him to whom we will have to give an account of everything inside of the body to God.

Above and Beyond

 “But the angel said to him: ‘Do not be afraid, Zechariah; your prayer has been heard. Your wife Elizabeth will bear you a son, and you are to call him John. He will be a joy and delight to you, and many will rejoice because of his birth, for he will be great in the sight of the Lord. He is never to take wine or other fermented drink, and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit even before he is born. He will bring back many of the people of Israel to the Lord their God. And he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous—to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.’” (Luke 1:13-17)

Zechariah and his wife Elizabeth had been praying for a son for nearly seven decades. They had been waiting longer than most people would for an answer to a prayer, but their waiting proved to be worth it when God appeared to Zechariah and promised him that Elizabeth was going to have a son. But this wasn’t just any child. This child was going to grow up to be someone who would be forever remembered because of the influence he had on history.

God more than answered their prayer. He didn’t just give them what they asked for. He gave them something even better than what they had asked for. He said their son would be filled with the Holy Spirit in his mother’s womb. He would never know a day when he did not have the Spirit of God. He would lead many in Israel to turn back to the Lord.

God does not always do what we want Him to do, when we want Him to do it, but when He does what He wants to do, when He wants to do it, it is what we would have wanted all along. So whenever we’re praying for something, let’s not put God in a box. Instead, let’s pray that God would not just give us what we want, but that He would give us His best, which always seems to be above and beyond anything we could have asked for or imagined.

Dear God, how grateful I am that you hear my prayers and that you always answer. Even when the answer isn’t exactly what I want, I know that I can trust you to give me your best. Help me to want your will over my will, and give me the eyes to see the blessings you give me that are so far beyond what I could ever ask for. Amen.

Luke 1:13-17

But the angel said to him, “Do not be afraid, Zechariah, for your prayer has been heard, and your wife Elizabeth will bear you a son, and you shall call his name John.

And you will have joy and gladness, and many will rejoice at his birth,

for he will be great before the Lord. And he must not drink wine or strong drink, and he will be filled with the Holy Spirit, even from his mother’s womb.

And he will turn many of the children of Israel to the Lord their God,

and he will go before him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready for the Lord a people prepared.”

        This is an essay concerning the Sinful Nature vs the New Man.  Who do you think will win?  The sinful nature consists of the Old Man Nature. 

        The reason why I brought this up as a topic is simply because there are some things that I am struggling with as a Christian.  For Instance, I do not use any vulgarity.  I will admit that I am a lonely man right now.  I am not involved in a relationship right now because I was doing things that did not make sense. 

        Next, I want to say that it is not easy for me to deal with this problem.  I really need everyone to please keep me in your prayers.  The New man is a man that is holy.  The new man is very honest, truthful, considerate, respectful, and Christ-like.  When it comes to the Old Man, it thrives on things that are not of God.

I know that this information does not pertain to the Old and New Man, but it is helpful when it comes to dealing with issues that I am dealing with right now.  In Colossians 3:9-10 the apostle Paul mentions the “old self” and the “new self” as he writes “Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices, and have put on the new self who is being renewed to a true knowledge according to the image of the One who created him.” He says that the old self has been put aside. Why would one want to put aside the old self, or old man? We are taught to put aside our old self because it is being corrupted.

 “if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught in Him, just as truth is in Jesus, that, in reference to your former manner of life, you lay aside the old self, which is being corrupted in accordance with the lusts of deceit,” (Ephesians 4:21-22). We can see that once we have been taught about Jesus Christ that we should want to do away with our old self that is full of sin, corrupted with the lusts and deceit of this world. We can further see that we can put off this old self by having it crucified with Jesus Christ. As he was crucified on the cross so that we may have forgiveness of sins, in like manner, our old self is nailed to that cross so that we will not walk in an unrighteous manner afterward. Paul says “knowing this, that our old self was crucified with Him, that our body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin” (Rom 6:6). We also put off this old self by regeneration in accordance with Galatians 3:26 and Ephesians 4:23-24.

       We have learned that the old man is one that is full of sin and worldliness. But what is the new man? The new man is the one that is full of the righteousness and holiness of God! “And put on the new self, which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth” (Ephesians 4:24). Also if you go back to the beginning of this article and read the text you’ll notice that this new man is one that is renewed according to the image of God (Colossians 3:10). 

        Once one has decided to put on the new man (and this can only be done through baptism (Gal 3:27), and put off the old, then there are things that must follow after doing so. One cannot expect to go to heaven by accepting Jesus Christ and then quit trying to live the Christian life. There are several things that the new Christian must strive to do every day to live a life for Jesus. It starts by speaking the truth about Jesus. We should feel so good about Him, that we would WANT to tell others about the wonderful happiness that we have found in Jesus. We should want to tell our neighbors about Him. “Therefore, laying aside falsehood, speak truth, each one of you, with his neighbor, for we are members of one another” (Ephesians 4:25).

In the past we might have gotten angry and sinned, but now the new man understands the righteousness of God and when one gets angry they will “sin not” as it states in Ephesians 4:26. We would be moved to do good works accompanied with good speech, while at the same time striving daily to resist the devil and all his temptations (Ephesians 4:27-29). This will be a struggle for the new babe in Christ but it can be done. Remember, God will not allow you to be tempted greater than you can endure (1 Corinthians 10:13). A new man will be moved to practice kindness to others. “And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you” (Ephesians 4:32).

Knowing that Christ died for us, forgiving us of all our sins, we should likewise be quick to forgive others in like-manner. When the old self has been put away, the new Christian will strive to have compassion on others (Colossians 3:12), and be long-suffering towards others (Colossians 3:13). The new man stands out because he has learned to put on love. “And beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity”. (Colossians 3:14).

        There is a big difference between the old man of the world and the new man of God. Which are you? Have you put away that old man? If not, you need to get into Christ and enjoy the wonderful blessings of being a Christian!  To me personally, the old and new man still exist because it is not I am not afraid of letting it go; it is that I am weak in this area.  It is really hurting me; when it comes to my relationship with God.  I would like for all of you to please pray for me because I am a very weak person, especially when it comes to dealing with this issues.  This is my story of the Old Man vs The New Man.

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